Is Christ Enough? Sexuality


Seeing What’s Really Going On Behind the Scenes

There is no doubt whatsoever that things are radically changing in our world.  One area that is definitely changing is the whole arena of sexuality.  Wow, has this changed in the last 60 years!  Now this post will be very controversial just like the others in this “Is Christ Enough?” series.  But I ask my readers to bear with me until the end of the post.  I am going to make some majorly important points at the end.  So please hang in there with me.

The Current Situation

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that sexuality is changing around us.  Especially if you have been around for fifty years or more!  There have definitely been some major changes within the last three or four decades.  Please let me give you what I have observed in my 63 years.  Note- this is merely an observation and not a judgement or assessment of the morality or correctness of our current situation.

Crossing the Line of Male and Female Distinctions

What we have seen in the last thirty years is an attempt at doing away with all sexual distinctions and so-called prejudices.  The act of sex between male and female is no longer exclusive to that combination and now includes male with male and female with female.  The homosexual (gays and lesbians) world is vying for equality, acceptance, civil rights, and equal “air time” in the media and the government.  The arts are now opening up to this so called “movement”.  For example, more and more movies are being made with and about homosexual (and now transgender) relationships.

No longer is it just gay and lesbians, but now we have the LGBT movement which includes lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgender/transsexuals.

 … attitudes toward gays and lesbians have changed so much in just the last 10 years that, as Gallup reported last week, “half or more now agree that being gay is morally acceptable, that gay relations ought to be legal and that gay or lesbian couples should have the right to legally marry.” (In 1996, when Gallup first asked about legalizing same-sex marriage, 68% of Americans were opposed.)  By Mark Z. Barabak, Los Angeles Times  May 20, 2012

So what we are seeing around us is the fastest growing movement in history.  The majority opinion has gone from general opposition to acceptance in a decade!  And since now our whole nation (U.S.) has legalized same-sex marriages (see this article on Wikipedia) opposition has apparently become a moot point.

But that’s not all…

Now We Also Have the “Gender Blender”

Recently, fashion designers like Gucci and hip boutiques have begun selling what’s being called gender-neutral or gender-free clothing: clothes that can be worn by either men or women. (Both The New York Times style section and The Guardian have recently covered this trend.)
Then there was Target’s announcement in August that the retail giant would be eliminating gendered language in its children’s toys and bedding, transgender celebrity Caitlyn Jenner’s Vanity Fair cover and singer Miley Cyrus’ self-identification as gender-fluid.  (taken from CNN By Mary Rizzo, The Conversation)


Recently I was shopping for a coat at a “stylish” clothing store. I have to say that I was confused as to whether I was in the men’s section or the women’s. The coats looked very feminine to me. And my wife agreed! But it’s not just in clothing, it’s also in hair styles. Have you noticed recently that more and more “hip” and “trendy” hair styles among young people are unisex? What about the shaved head with a bun on the top? What about a bushy Mohawk on top with a shaved head? These hair styles are usually accompanied by tats all over the arms.  Now, please keep in mind that I am not making any judgement calls about any of these things.  I am merely reporting what I am observing.  My point of all this will be at the end of this post.

Uni What?

There is also the whole unisex movement around the world.  Did you know that the idea and implementation of unisex restrooms has become a huge debate around the world?  As I write this post cities around the world are actually voting on measures known as “bathroom ordinances” which would prohibit discrimination based upon gender identity.  This is coming about mostly because of the transgender issue.  If, for example, someone decided to change their sex, then which restroom can they now use?  Because the transgender community is growing, now many people and institutions are feeling forced to redefine sexuality and gender altogether.  No doubt, the next step will be bi-gender movement.  These people are both male AND female either physically, psychologically, or both.  Now society will have to not only accept this but re-frame all social structures to fit into this new lifestyle.

What About Sexual Intercourse and the Marriage Relationship?

Moving on from the “Gender Blender” stuff let’s now take a look at marriage (between a man and a woman) as a life choice and institution.  Wow!  Have things changed in this area or what?  First let’s take a look at the stats on marriage:

Professor Stanley at the University of Denver suggests that people consider the following statements:

  • About 31 percent of a person’s friends, aged 35 to 54, who are married, engaged or cohabiting have already previously been married.
  • People who have been married many years (say, 35-plus) and have never been divorced have almost no chance of the marriage ending in divorce.
  • The rate of divorce per year per 1,000 people has been declining since 1980.
  • A young couple marrying for the first time today has a lifetime divorce risk of 40 percent, “unless current trends change significantly.”


What these stats don’t tell you is that less and less people are even getting married at all!

The marriage rate in America has hit a record low and is expected to drop even further next year, according to a company that specializes in wedding and fertility trend forecasts. But some experts speculate that the headline-grabbing recent retreat from marriage may be bottoming out.

Others have made similar findings. A Pew Research Center report recently said that one-fourth of millennials are likely to eschew marriage entirely.

And of course these stats are for marriages that are men and women.

What’s in a Word?

Now there is something else that has become more and more pervading throughout our society.  That is the use of the “F” word.

Recently I was getting some work done on my laptop in a McDonald’s restaurant.  All of a sudden about 50 junior high school kids overtook the place with a very loud and tumultuous roar.  At that point it was extremely difficult to hear or think!  I was sitting at a bar (for people with laptops) that seated six people.  Well, it didn’t take long before five young teenage boys sat down at the bar.  Obviously, there must have been a junior high school real close by.

At first, I wasn’t really listening to them because I was trying desperately to block out all the noise so I could continue working.  Unfortunately, I had forgotten my earbuds but I instinctively knew that they wouldn’t have helped much anyway.  Soon my mind began to wander and I found myself listening to these boys.  The first thing I noticed is that just about every fifth word was the “F” word!  It flowed out of them like a sewer hose!  It was obvious that they really didn’t realize what they were saying and that word was just like saying any other word like “a” or “the”.  Then, I started hearing them discussing their sexual conquests and those of people they knew around them in the restaurant.  It was nothing for them to say things like. “yeah, I F—- Suzie” and “I heard that Joey has also already F—- her”.   It was like nothing I had ever heard before.  Treating sex like a sport or something.  It was absolutely frightening! Now whether these sexual “conquests” were based in reality or not is not really my point.  The fact that they were thinking and talking like that is my point!

About two weeks later I was driving near that same spot and was waiting at a traffic light.  As I was sitting there a crowd of young teenagers walked across the street in the crosswalk right in front of me.  Guess what?  They were all using the “F’ word loud and clear!

Of course, we have all noticed that language has changed in our culture all around us.  We can see and hear it in movies, music, art, the internet, etc.  For many, true marriage with one person (for all your life) is looked down upon and is outdated in this sexually “enlightened” culture.  Sex, is now something separate from true marriage (with one male and one female) and is considered to be as a “sport”.


First of all, before we can discover what is truly going on here, we need to ask the all pervading question: “WHY?”

WHY has sexuality changed radically in our culture in the last 50 years?

WHY are gender roles and definitions being changed and blended into one big pot?

WHY are we now moving to a unisex format?

WHY? is traditional marriage becoming a thing of the past?

WHY are our children now seeing sex as a sport for any age and using the “F” word?

The answer might actually shock you!  It’s something far deeper than the breakout of our society or world system.  Yes, of course, it is tied into the world system.

The apostle John told us something very revealing about the system(s) of this world.

We know that we are of God, and that the whole world lies in the power of the evil one.(1 John 5:19)

Okay, so understanding that, what do you think the enemy of God is up to in this area of sexuality?

He is attempting to assault, mock, and destroy the testimony of God’s eternal purpose in this world!

Considering the fact that most Christians don’t even know (let alone understand) the eternal purpose of God, this should not come as a shock to us.  Dear believer, I implore you, if you do not know what I am writing about please read other posts on this blog that have to do with the “eternal purpose”.  Do so in a spirit of prayer asking God for his revelation in this all important matter.

Now, you may be asking: “Milt, how does attacking sexuality and marriage in our world attack the testimony of God’s eternal purpose?”

Well, I am really glad you asked that!  🙂

Paul does a wonderful job of summing it up for us in this passage:

Ephesians 5:22 (22-33) The wives, be putting yourselves in subjection with implicit obedience to your own husbands as to the Lord, because a husband is head of the wife as the Christ is Head of the Church, He himself being the Saviour of the Body. Nevertheless, as the Church subjects itself in obedience to the Christ, in this manner also the wives should subject themselves in obedience to their husbands in all things. The husbands, be loving your wives with a love self-sacrificial in its nature, in the manner in which Christ also loved the Church and gave himself on behalf of it, in order that He might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the bath of water in the sphere of the Word, in order that He might himself present to himself the Church glorious, not having spot nor wrinkle nor any of such things, but in order that it might be holy and unblamable. In this manner ought also the husbands to love their wives as their own bodies. The one who loves his own wife loves himself, for no one ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Christ, the Church, because members are we of His Body. Because of this a man shall leave behind his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great. However, I am speaking with regard to Christ and the Church. Nevertheless, also as for you, let each one in this manner be loving his own wife as himself, and the wife, let her be continually treating her husband with deference and reverential obedience. (Wuest’s Expanded Translation)

There it is! There you have it! In case you didn’t get it, I will spell it out for you. Paul tells us that the physical marriage union is a picture, an image, a shadow of something much deeper and higher. It is a reflection of the spiritual marriage between Jesus Christ and His lovely Bride, the Church! And this is all about him getting what he has wanted since before creation. That is, an image, an expression, a family, a body, a bride, a city, a tree (vine and branches), a new kingdom, a new humanity, and a new creation! This is so that the fullness of Christ would be expressed and displayed to all creation (visible and invisible) through this “woman” “wife” if you will.

I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you will know what is the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints, and what is the surpassing greatness of His power toward us who believe. These are in accordance with the working of the strength of His might which He brought about in Christ, when He raised Him from the dead and seated Him at His right hand in the heavenly places, far above all rule and authority and power and dominion, and every name that is named, not only in this age but also in the one to come. And He put all things in subjection under His feet, and gave Him as head over all things to the church, which is His body, the fullness of Him who fills all in all.
(Ephesians 1:18-23)

So… of course the enemy of God will do whatever he can to stain and tarnish the picture of His eternal purpose.

Author: Milt Rodriguez

Milt is an author, speaker, and organic church planter.

6 thoughts on “Is Christ Enough? Sexuality”

  1. Hi Milt – I am 69 years young and have noticed this trend for a long, long time. Altho a large percentage of people in this country claim to follow the ways of Christ and God, evidence points 180 degrees the other direction. Seems that we do not spend much time with the kids these days, teaching them and showing them the difference between moral behavior vs carnal. They have no values: they are by themselves in selfish pursuits that continue to take them the wrong direction. A child must be shown his true value in Christ, so that he grows up hungering after Christ instead of things of the world. (Where are the parents?) The majority of today’s kids have no respect for anyone, sadly.

    Where gender-bender bathrooms are concerned, I can tell you that about 11 years ago I left my desk and walked down to a communal restroom (apartment complex leased out rooms to small businesses on the cheap). I had a key, but strangely, it was unlocked. I saw no one inside and closed and locked the door. Imagine my shock when I went into one of the two stalls there and realized that a man was in the stall next to me. He was more scared than I was – his large hand shaking. So now – do I need to begin carrying some sort of protective device, since the carnal govt is pushing to let men and women use the same restrooms? You know this is where it is headed.
    And you have to know how God feels about such a thing!

    I have explained to believers and non-believers alike about the marriage between a man and woman is the type and shadow of the marriage between the Lamb of God and his bride the Ecclesia. Even some Christians do not get it. It seems a lot of Christianity has become the epitome of compromise: like the frog in the pot of slow, heating hot water. They have no idea where their relationship with God is at presently; it will be a shock to them to find out eventually where they are really at.

    I did not recognize sex as being a tool of Madison Avenue when I was much younger: but now I look back and realize that sex has always been used to market things; it was just much more subtle back then. For the past couple of decades sex has been used for entertainment by everyone. It is no longer a taboo subject. Modesty hit the skids many years ago. It truly saddens me how ugly and irresponsible we have become as human beings. The sex trade is up,as is pornography. All this because we have turned against God to pursue abominable lifestyles.

    While on this subject, I heard something disturbing over the news on the radio a few weeks ago: a company is coming up with life-size robots, both “men and women”, that among other things will have a well defined sexual side to them. They will come with the ability for the person to marry their robotic better half.

    I am sorry: but there are some things I must judge to get thru each day and keep my moral compass. The above are some of the subjects that need a “yea” or “nay” as I walk thru each day. May our Lord God grant us all the wisdom and discernment to avoid the traps of compromise in our daily lives.

  2. First of all, let me say thank you for trying to frame this conversation in terms of God’s eternal purpose rather than using some kind of moral high ground (the least defensible high ground there is). But while I appreciate that very much, there are some things in this post I find confusing.

    For instance, it seems to me that you conflate gender, sexual orientation, and biological sex when those three things are entirely different. Gender, for instance, is 100% culturally based. Which is another source of confusion for me because you say that gender is becoming blended or fluid but, when you look at the vast array of human history and cultures, it’s always been fluid. What is considered “female presenting” or “male presenting” in one place may be the opposite or even hideous in another cultural setting.

    In fact, a lot of what you seem troubled by is really just cultural shifts that don’t mean a whole lot. The use of profanity and clothing are actually great examples. People who want to present as female don’t wear the same thing today that they would have a hundred years ago. That difference becomes even more drastic if you take into account regionality. Someone desiring to look masculine in 1100 AD China wouldn’t look remotely like what looked masculine in America of the same time.

    If those junior high school boys had been saying “Zounds!” or “God’s Teeth!” would you have been as scandalized? Absolutely not, they’d sound ridiculous. And yet, not too long ago in the grand scheme of things, those would have been absolutely shocking things to exclaim. I realize I’m personally more libertine in my speech than many others, but this kind of shift leads me to a space where things are just words.

    But you do bring up an interesting point through those boys. That conquest mentality has been the dominant masculine trait for Americans since at least the 1950s. And that masculinity is toxic. One of the most toxic things about it is that boys who have sex are heroes and girls who have sex are sluts. That toxic masculinity that hurts both men and women, boys and girls, can’t go away fast enough.

    And that’s happening, slowly but surely, because we’re doing away with gendering things for children. And gendering bathrooms. And gendering anything that says one identity is better or more powerful or more worthy or more important than the other. Because that’s not true. And you know who said it first? Jesus Christ.

    What’s changed during your lifetime is a kind of weird way to frame one of these conversations. Civil War veterans were born into a time when owning people was acceptable and died in a time when it was not. The last batch of suffragettes were born into a world where they weren’t allowed a voice in governing themselves and died in one where they could. These are good changes that happened during a single lifetime!

    Similarly, I find the de-gendering of things to be a good shift that can only result in happier and healthier human beings and I find it very difficult to believe that those things annoy the God of Love and Prince of Peace.

    So I feel like you may have some confusion over gender, sexual orientation, and biological sex. And I feel like you may have some confusion about just how much these things are actually based on constantly changing human cultures. But worse than all that, I think you might be confused about metaphors.

    As a straight, male presenting person who identifies easily with what my culture considers masculine and has entered into marriage with a reasonably straight, female presenting person who identifies relatively easily with what my culture considers feminine, I have gained a lot of insight into God’s Eternal Purpose through the metaphor of a marriage between the Christ and his Bride, the Church.

    But when Paul talked about marriage he had a different idea about what that meant than the predominantly Roman people he wrote to and all of them have different ideas about what marriage means than we do today.

    There are a lot of other metaphors for God’s Eternal Purpose! Families and mansions and branches with vines. I don’t think any one of these metaphors has more magical power than the other because if one of them were perfect, we wouldn’t need the others.

    Let me put it like this. Does the tiny house movement undermine Jesus’s promise to build us mansions? Does living communally undermine Jesus’s promise that his Father’s house has many rooms? If I make cars rather than farm, does that undermine the image of the vine and branches?

    Obviously not. They’re metaphors and metaphors only have the power that their context gives them. And if the context changes, and this change is a good and fine thing, then the metaphor has to change or give way to a new, more apt metaphor. God’s Eternal Purpose isn’t any of the metaphors we’ve used to describe it. Therefore undermining one of the metaphors (which I’m not even convinces is happening as much as natural cultural shifts) cannot undermine that Eternal Purpose.

    I think removing all the barriers we create that keep us from seeing other humans as humans is in line with God’s Eternal Purpose. And from that perspective, I live in exciting times.

    I look forward to more dialogue on these issues.

  3. Linda,

    Thanks so much for commenting and sharing some of your own experiences pertaining to this issue. I agree, that the trends we are seeing are very disturbing indeed. However, the reason they are so disturbing (for me) is the assault on God’s eternal purpose and who is behind it all. I absolutely refuse to give any credence at all to any such demonically inspired movements or trends.

    Good to hear from someone who is old enough to have experienced some of these things! May God’s glory and purpose be seen and experienced!

  4. Joshua,

    Thanks so much for your thought provoking comments.

    I will try and clear up some of your confusion relating to my post, however, I must say that some of your comments are really confusing to me!

    I don’t agree that “gender” is totally dependent upon cultural trends. I suppose that it may depend upon how you use that word. Gender is not only how we relate to it in a society but also the physical aspect of sex itself. The definition includes the thought of either the male or female division of the species. This is what I was referring to when I used the word “gender”. Now perhaps I should have used the word “sex” instead because of it’s clearly physical aspect. I will give you that one! However, it is very clear from the scriptures that God created man in two divisions; male and female (Gen. 1:27). It’s very interesting to me that so early on we see that man (created in God’s image) as male and female. We’ll get to that in more detail a bit later.

    I don’t understand your references to Civil war vets and suffragettes. Of course, there have been good things that have happened in lifetimes. But that’s outside the scope of this post! My heart and goal for this post was to expose a deception and lie of the enemy. The point is that the accuser of the brethren is attempting to do away with and blur things pertaining to God’s purpose and goal for creating humans in the first place. There’s something much deeper here that I think you are missing.

    Yes culture changes (sometimes for good and sometimes for bad). However, it’s very clear from scripture that the general “trend” throughout history is the decaying of humankind in all aspects. There are too many references to name them but here I will refer to one. Jesus told us that before he returned it would be like the days of Noah. (Luke 17:26) Of course we have somewhat of an idea about what it was like in those days. It was so bad that God decided to destroy the world with a flood! So things are generally declining like the Titanic as I referred to in the post. This aspect of sexuality is just one of many indications of this decline.

    Your comments seem to have a hint of relativism that really concerns me. God’s truth is God’s truth. It holds true throughout eternity and does not change even as He does not change. When Paul talked about marriage he spoke about it from God’s eternal purpose, which is absolute and does not change! Of course, people heard him from their different cultural filters but that is not the point. Truth is truth! God’s truth does not change to fit into the culture or trends. People are called to “fit into” his plan, not the other way around.

    Another point you made is about my use of “metaphors”. Actually brother, I think you are the one who is confused about metaphors. The so-called “metaphors” that Jesus used (for example) were not metaphors at all! They are realities! You have it backwards. Let me give you just one example that holds true for all of them.

    Jesus said, “I am the true vine and My father is the vine dresser” (John 15:1). The word “true” there in the Greek means “real” or “genuine”. You see what Jesus was telling us is that He is the REAL Vine! He is the Reality of the physical grapevines that you see at wineries! The physical is simply a reflection, a shadow, or copy of the REAL Vine who is Christ! This holds true for all of the other “metaphors” that Jesus used pertaining to Himself. He IS the reality of all these things. Brother, if you can get that then this whole comment will have accomplished something. You will not be able to comprehend it with your mind but only by His Spirit inside of your spirit.

    Marriage between a man and a woman is a “shadow” a reflection of the true, genuine, reality of Christ and the Church. A shadow simply tell us that there is a solid reality behind the shadow and the shadow only exists as a “proof” that there is an eternal reality behind it. The “shadow” of male and female sexes are a picture showing us Christ and the Church. If you can get this bro, then you will understand why I wrote this post.

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